Power Play

Tell me what to do

Charged · Held · Decided

'In charge' or 'clearly not' — anything in between bores you. We've heard.

What this archetype looks like

For you, clear roles can create charge when both people want them and agree to them. This works best with honesty, consent and care. The good part is that clear roles can make the moment feel focused and exciting. The hard part is being with someone who can act the role briefly but does not truly want it. Then the dynamic can feel unsafe or lonely. Talk about the role, the limits and the after-care before you rely on it.

Strengths

Real heat from honesty
Clarity over scripts

Watch-outs

Requires a partner who can hold it
Without care, dynamic collapses

What to do with this

Try the Bedroom Power Style test
Try the Bed Archetype test

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