TEST-YO!· How You LoveECR-S · Wei et al. 2007
How Do You Actually Love?
How you love. How you fear. 12 questions explain a lot.
- 5 min
- 12 questions
- No signup
- Free
Full result at the end — no email needed
Possible results · which one are you?
- Secure
- Anxious
- Avoidant
- Fearful-Avoidant
Quick answer
How you love. How you fear. 12 questions explain a lot.
- 12 questions · ~5 min
- Framework: Adult attachment styles
- Based on: Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007)
- Cost: free · no signup
About this test
How you love is also how you fear. 12 honest statements about closeness and trust, plotted on the two dimensions that explain almost everything that goes right (and wrong) in your relationships — and the patterns you keep replaying.
Methodology
Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007). The Experiences in Close Relationships Scale (ECR)-Short Form: Reliability, validity, and factor structure. Journal of Personality Assessment, 88(2), 187–204.
Possible archetypes
- Secure · Texts back, normal
- You ask for what you need, in words. Out loud. Disgusting.
- Anxious · 'K.' sends me spiral
- They take 12 minutes to reply and you've already drafted the breakup.
- Avoidant · Allergic to L-word
- Things got good, so naturally you started replying every 3 days.
- Fearful-Avoidant · Come-here-go-away
- You initiate at 11pm, panic at 9am, disappear by lunch.
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Sources & references
- Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007). The Experiences in Close Relationships scale — Short form (ECR-S). Journal of Personality Assessment.
FAQ + disclaimer
Can my attachment style change?
Yes. Attachment is a pattern, not a trait. Therapy, long-term secure relationships, and self-work all meaningfully shift it.
How long does it take?
About 5 minutes — 12 Likert items.
Which style is “best”?
Secure tends to predict the smoothest relationships, but all four styles are normal human adaptations and all four can grow.