Martyr

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Over-giving · Tracking · Resentful

You give too much and bill them in arguments six months later. With interest.

What this archetype looks like

Your dominant toxic pattern is the Martyr. It's the shadow side of generosity: you give past your limits without saying so, then expect people to notice and reciprocate. When they don't, you're hurt — and your sacrifices become evidence in future arguments. What helps is asking for what you need before you give what you don't have.

Strengths

Generosity
Loyalty
Self-sacrifice for those you love

Watch-outs

Hidden scorekeeping
Resentment that surfaces in fights
Self-erasure

What to do with this

Try the Self-Esteem test
Try the Locus of Control test
Try the Attachment Style test

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