"I Have To Earn It"

Overfunctioning

Earning · Scoreboard · Exhausted

You give 110%, they tip 4%. And you wonder why you're tired.

What this archetype looks like

You feel you have to earn love by doing more. The good part is real generosity and care. The hard part is that you may not know how to be loved when you are tired, quiet or empty-handed. What helps is practicing being received without immediately paying it back.

Strengths

Real generosity
Reliably present

Watch-outs

Partner can't receive tired-you
Love merges with labour

What to do with this

Try the People-Pleaser test
Try the Burnout Stage test

Curious if this is you?

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