"I'd Be Selfish"

Allergic to wanting

Small · Apologising · Under-asking

You ask for less on purpose, then wonder why you got less. We both know it.

What this archetype looks like

You may treat asking for what you want as if it makes you selfish. So you ask for less: less money, less help, less time, less care. The good part is that you consider other people. The hard part is that people cannot give what you never ask for. Over time, unmet needs can turn into quiet resentment. What helps is remembering that asking is not the same as demanding. People who care about you usually prefer clarity.

Strengths

Real consideration of others
Low exploitation

Watch-outs

Quiet life-debt accumulating
People can't give what you don't ask for

What to do with this

Try the People-Pleaser test
Try the Money Trauma test

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