Chosen

Initiate or I leave

Initiated · Pursued · Picked

If you have to start it again, you'd rather just go to sleep. With grievance.

What this archetype looks like

For you, being available is not the same as being chosen. You need moments where your partner reaches for you, starts the connection, or shows that they want you specifically. The good part is that you understand the difference between real desire and convenience. The hard part is that you can feel rejected if you are always the one who starts. Do not turn it into a guessing game. Tell your partner: "I need to feel pursued sometimes. Can you start more often?"

Strengths

Clear sense of real desire
You notice when effort is mutual

Watch-outs

Always starting can wear you down
A passive partner can feel rejecting

What to do with this

Try the Attachment Style test
Try the Conflict Style test

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