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What this archetype looks like

You keep track of who paid, who owes and whether things feel fair. The good part is that you care about balance and do not want anyone used. The hard part is that a relationship can start to feel like accounting. Old money moments may come up during fights that are really about something else. What helps is saying the concern directly: “I need this to feel fair.” Then agree on a clearer system instead of keeping a private score.

Strengths

• Real fairness, no exploitation
• Hard to take advantage of

Watch-outs

• Accounting-heavy intimacy
• Old debts at the wrong times

What to do with this

• Try the Petty Score test
• Try the Grudge Holder test