TEST-YO!· How You LoveECR-S · Wei et al. 2007
What Is My Attachment Style? How Do You Actually Love?
What is my attachment style? Take this free 12-question quiz on closeness and trust. Explore anxious and avoidant patterns for reflection, not diagnosis.
- 5 min
- 12 questions
- No signup
- Free
Full result at the end — no email needed
Possible results · which one are you?
- Secure
- Anxious
- Avoidant
- Fearful-Avoidant
Quick answer
What is my attachment style? Take this free 12-question quiz on closeness and trust. Explore anxious and avoidant patterns for reflection, not diagnosis.
- 12 questions · ~5 min
- Framework: Adult attachment styles
- Based on: Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007)
- Cost: free · no signup
About this test
How you love is also how you fear. This 12-item self-report adaptation from the published ECR-Short Form explores attachment anxiety and avoidance through statements about closeness and trust. The two dimensions offer a snapshot for reflection; Test-Yo’s four quadrant labels are custom and non-clinical.
Methodology
Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007). The Experiences in Close Relationship Scale (ECR)-Short Form: Reliability, validity, and factor structure. Journal of Personality Assessment, 88(2), 187–204.
Possible archetypes
- Secure · Texts back, normal
- You ask for what you need, in words. Out loud. Disgusting.
- Anxious · 'K.' sends me spiral
- They take 12 minutes to reply and you've already drafted the breakup.
- Avoidant · Allergic to L-word
- Things got good, so naturally you started replying every 3 days.
- Fearful-Avoidant · Come-here-go-away
- You initiate at 11pm, panic at 9am, disappear by lunch.
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Sources & references
- Wei, M., Russell, D. W., Mallinckrodt, B., & Vogel, D. L. (2007). The Experiences in Close Relationships scale — Short form (ECR-S). Journal of Personality Assessment.
FAQ + disclaimer
Can my attachment style change?
Attachment patterns can shift over time and across relationships. A 12-item self-report snapshot cannot establish what will change for you; if distress persists, consider qualified support.
How long does it take?
About 5 minutes — 12 Likert items.
Which style is “best”?
No style is a clinical grade or verdict. These four labels are shorthand regions in two continuous dimensions; use the result for reflection, not relationship prediction.
What is my attachment style?
Your answers about closeness and trust give a snapshot of attachment anxiety and avoidance. The quiz maps those two scores to one of four informal labels. Treat it as a starting point for reflection, not a diagnosis or a fixed identity.