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You ask for what you need, in words. Out loud. Disgusting.

What this archetype looks like

Low anxiety, low avoidance. You can ask for what you need, accept what a partner offers, and tolerate both proximity and distance without it spiking alarm bells. This is the pattern most relationship research associates with stable, satisfying bonds.

Strengths

Comfort with intimacy
Clear communication
Trust after repair

Watch-outs

Assuming everyone else is as regulated
Missing subtle distress signals
Under-reading partners’ insecurities

What to do with this

Try the Dark Triad test
Try the Stress & Resilience test

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